By: Lora Wimsatt
Let’s face it: Most children are pretty self-centered. It’s all about them.
They don’t want to share. The last cupcake is always theirs. They want the shiny toy, the window seat and first pick of which movie to rent.
It’s easy for parents to give in. (How does it look to argue with a 5-year-old over who gets the biggest cookie?)
And most of these arguments will eventually be outgrown. Well, except for the last cupcake; we all want that!
But raising children is more than just navigating these battles. Most Moms and Dads understand that being a parent also involves a responsibility to instill in their children a sense of responsibility and giving toward others.
Even the youngest child can participate in service to others through the everyday situations in their own families.
For example, if the family is active at church, there are numerous ministries to support. Even little ones can take part in projects to collect food, clothing or money to help those in need.
If parents are members of an organization with a service orientation, bring those conversations from the club luncheon to the family dinner table. Talk about the projects your club is supporting, and why they are important. Be creative in finding ways for your child to contribute.
However, it’s important to let the child make a real contribution – don’t just hand him a dollar to put in the kettle, or give her a can of soup to drop in the collection box. Give your child an opportunity to earn that dollar or buy the soup by doing chores around the house. While you’re at it, engage her in a conversation about what kinds of items – groceries, clothing, health and hygiene products – might be appropriate for the circumstances.
Another idea is to look for opportunities to expand your family activities beyond your own household. For example, look around the neighborhood to see if there is someone who needs assistance with lawn maintenance. Kids can help rake leaves or mow grass. It may even be as simple as asking an elderly or handicapped neighbor if they need help moving their toter out front on trash collection day. Perhaps a neighbor has a dog but is unable to take it for walk. This is a great way to help out – and get some family exercise at the same time!
And it’s important to remember that “volunteer service” is not limited to donations and chores. Time … time spent with another person, talking, listening – that can be the greatest gift of all. And it’s a gift that truly blesses the giver as much as the receiver.
Encouraging your child to be of service to others may very well be the greatest lesson a parent can teach. Even better than giving up that last cupcake.